Recently I had the privilege to sit down with Gina*, who told me she really didnt enjoy getting up in the mornings because she didnt have anything to be excited about in her day.
Gina shared with me that she grew up in a home where goals and dreams were negative thoughts. If you had any of those thoughts you were trying to be better or put on airs and look down on others around you, like your family and friends.
She was also raised on the belief that a job was a job. It was to pay your bills and didnt require you to like it. This is why she didnt enjoy her mornings. She didnt have any reason (so she believed at the time) to be excited.
Her experience was very eye-opening to me. My family always told me I could be and do anything I wanted in life. No boundaries and no limits. The world was mine to command. My family believed in building their future and leaving a legacy for generations to come.
Gina went on to explain that not until she was forty years old did she realize this was part of what was holding her back in life. She had always worked for someone else, but secretly dreamt of having her own company. She wanted the freedoms her friends had who were self-employed: freedom of taking a day off without asking for permission, not having to beg her boss for a vacation or worry if she was going to get a pay raise.
She was scared. She knew her close family and friends would not accept this type of change from her. She was worried that without their support, she may not be successful.
This is always one of the toughest parts of this path. Friends and family do not usually want to see you succeed, as they feel they are failures if you do. This is not true- it is just their perception of themselves. Nonetheless, this subconsciously stops many people from even trying.
Have you ever tried a product or service and share the amazing experience with someone? If that persons reaction was negative, did it change your opinion of that product or service? It happens all the time and it is what keeps the majority of people doing the same thing day in and day out- The FEAR of being different.
Ginas fears, and subsequent excuses and justifications, could have stopped her, but instead, she made a decision to share her experiences with anyone who would listen. She woke up and reminded herself that the only person in charge of who she was and where she was going was her!
She started listening to powerful videos and read books on how to change her life. She changed the people she surrounded herself with, no longer allowing negative people in her life. She created a support circle of others who were on a similar journey.
Gina committed to 12 months to allow new habits, new friends and the resulting changes to take over. She knew this meant she would have to stay at her job until she made enough money to quit. This meant less time to socialize with friends and family, but it was for only 12 months. Most of us can do anything for that time period to reach our goals.
It didnt take her 12 months, in fact, she was able to accomplish her goals in 6 months. I am happy to say that she has built a successful company and has gone on to help many others develop the skills needed to be successful.
I share this story, as it is heard time and time again. Success means different things to each of us. You have to define what it means to you and do not be afraid to go for it!
Success is liking yourself, liking what you do and liking how you do it.
Many of you know that I started a second company in the Gourmet Coffee and Tea realm. Part of my why was that I like great coffee and tea and many of my friends do as well. But truly I wanted to be a part of a company that stood for the same things I did. A company that wanted to bring excellent products to consumers AND opportunities to those who werent afraid to dream of a better life.
It is an honor and privilege to mentor and help people dream and achieve. With solid training systems in place we can successfully be the wind beneath your wings and help you achieve.
All you need to do is make that decision.